As stated at my original post, I didn’t have much of a guideline to work with when writing Dekar’s obituary.  Therefore, this page is being set up as a resource to help other parents of babies who have been taken too soon.   

All obituaries/memorials have been used with permission and if requested, sanitised to protect privacy.  Thank you to those who have been willing to share their obituaries in order to help other grieving families.  If you would like to share your baby’s obituary please use the contact form.   Let me know if I can use it as is, or if you would like me to sanitize any portion for privacy purposes.  You may also provide a link for obituaries that have been published online.  

CLICK HERE for TEXT version of obituaries. 

CLICK HERE for Scanned/Photo obituaries.

(Some of the scanned obits are duplicates of the samples you see on this page. There are also obits that are not seen on this page.)

 Last update:  8-2-2017 


Dekar Ezri Schmidt passed peacefully in the arms of family on June 27, 2008.

He was born at 10:46 a.m. and met the eyes of Jesus at 7:10 p.m. the same day.

Dekar was the son of Cortney and Marge Schmidt of Atwood (Ellsworth).

He is survived by eight siblings, Hali, Aaron, Solomon, Eli, Rachel, Jadon, Melchizedek, and Isaiah, all at home.

His paternal grandparents are Jerry and Judy Schmidt of Tomahawk, Wisc.; and maternal grandmother, Laura Pehoski of Stevens Point, Wisc.

Dekar gave us a lifetime of love during his short time on earth.

The Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep Foundation provided a volunteer photographer to record his short life with us.
In lieu of flowers we would be pleased to have you support their mission to help other grieving parents through their remembrance photography at: The Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep Foundation, 7800 S Elati St. #111, Littleton, CO 80120, or:

Winchester Funeral Home in Charlevoix is handling the arrangements.


Jane Marie Smith passed peacefully in the arms of her loving parents on November 23, 2007. Jane Marie was born on November 20, 2007. During her three short days here on Earth she touched many lives and was loved deeply by family and friends.  Her life was a brief gift to us that will live on as her heart valves were donated and received by those who were in need. Jane Marie is the daughter of John and Sue Smith, of Huron, Alaska. Jane Marie is survived by one sibling, Jackson Smith. Her paternal grandparents are James and Lucy Smith of Rockwell; and maternal grandparents Ron Brown of Lexington and Laura of Dallas. In lieu of flowers we would be honored to have you support The Children’s Miracle Network at: Children’s Miracle Network (address here) as they supported us in our time of need.  Funeral services will be held at Wintersgrove Mortuary on December 10, 2007.  There will be a viewing at 5:00 p.m. followed by services at 5:30 p.m.



(Text from above) Baby Bethany Joy Patrow

Bethany Joy Patrow, aged 15 days, died in her parents’ arm at Sacred Heart Medical Center in Spokane, WA on August 6, 2008. After struggling with inoperable Congenital heart disease, she passed gently into the arms of Jesus.

Bethany is the daughter of David and Jennifer Patrow of College Place. She is the answer to their prayers, and they waited for her birth with joyful expectation. During her brief visit on earth, she enjoyed listening to music, cuddling with soft toys, and being held close by her parents and grandparents. She was loved by all who met her, and will be greatly missed.

A Memorial Service will be held Saturday, August 9, 2008 at 4:30 PM at Walla Walla First Presbyterian Church, with a reception following. Memorial contributions may be made to the First Presbyterian Church Bethany Joy Patrow Memorial Fund through the Herring Groseclose Funeral Home, 315 W. Alder, Walla Walla, WA 99362.

Bethany is survived by David and Jennifer Patrow of Colllege……(other survivors listed here)


KUMAR, Kavya Anjali, treasured daughter of Reju and Beth Kumar (Shamblin) and beloved sister of Priya. Cherished niece, cousin, grandaughter and great-grandaughter. Born December 26, 2007, died peacefully in the arms of her family after two beautiful and unforgettable hours. A beautiful baby girl who touched so many lives in such a brief time. We will always miss and love you. Contributions can be made to Bethesda North Perinatal Grief Support Center, Cincinnati, Ohio.


This was Samuel’s obituary. In Denton it cost $46.

Samuel Allen Stracener

Samuel Allen Stracener
Samuel Allen Stracener was born on Tuesday, September 23, 2008, at 11:47 a.m. to parents Rick and Tracy Stracener at the Presbyterian Hospital of Denton. He weighed 5 pounds, 1 ounce and was 19 inches long.
Samuel’s family was blessed with almost an hour and a half with Samuel, before he went to his heavenly home at 1:15 p.m. Samuel experienced holding hands with his mommy and daddy, hugs and kisses from his family, listening as his mommy and daddy sang him songs, and being told “I love you” an uncountable amount of times.
Samuel is deeply loved by his mommy and daddy, big brother Luke, his grandparents, his great-grandparents, his aunts and uncles, his cousins and many others. Samuel will always remain his parents’ precious baby and Luke’s little brother, and they will hold him again in heaven one day.
If anyone would like to make a donation in Samuel’s memory, please donate to “Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep” infant bereavement photography at .

Damien Carl France, infant son of Carrie France, passed away on Friday, November 7, 2008 at the Lutheran Medical Center in Wheatridge, Colorado. He was born on November 7, 2008.Survivors include his Mother – Carrie France of Golden, Colorado, Grandmother – Pat Daubert of Scott City, Kansas, Grandfather Ted France of Scott City, Kansas, Great Grandmother – Virginia Elliott of Nevada, Iowa, One Uncle – Richard France of Garden City, Kansas, Two Aunts – Stephanie Stewart of Dodge City, Kansas, Wendy & John Neill of Dodge City, Kansas, Two Cousins – Bradley Neill of Dodge City, Kansas and Jeffrey Neill of Dodge City, Kansas.

He was preceded in death by his Great Grandparents – Carl Elliott and Theodore & Violet France.

Private family graveside services will be held at a later date with Larry Taylor presiding.

Interment will be in the Scott County Cemetery in Scott City, Kansas.

Memorials may be given to the Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep Foundation or SOLACE – Pregnancy & Newborn Loss Program % Price & Sons Funeral Home.


(Part of a handout from Harvey’s funeral)





CHAVEZ — GRACE OLIVIA “Amazing” Grace Olivia Chavez, infant daughter of Gregory and T. Nicole Chavez, went to be with our Lord on Saturday, November 17, 2007. Grace laughed and smiled throughout her 11 months; bringing joy and happiness to everyone she touched. In addition to her parents, she is survived by her favorite sister, Madyson; and her favorite brother, Royce; paternal grandparents, Tony “Papatoe” and Connie Chavez; and maternal grandparents, Bruce and Lesley Allen; paternal great-grandmother, Olympia L. “Grammie” Chavez; maternal great-grandmother, Hope “Kakoo” Taylor, all of Albuquerque; and many other relatives and friends who loved “Amazing Grace” very much. Services will be held Wednesday, November 21, 2007, 11:00 a.m., at Tower Road Baptist Church, 601 86th Street SW, with Pastor Gerald Wood officiating. Interment will follow in San Jose de Armijo Cemetery, 2957 Arenal Road SW. The family would like to thank the staff at Presbyterian Hospital NICU with a special thank you to Danielle Weaver, Dr. Shover, Dr. Weidner and Jessica, and Dr. Chimoskey. The family would also like to thank the staff at University Hospital PICU for the incredible care provided to Grace and the entire family, a very special thanks to Pastor Gerald Wood, Chaplain Jay Sparks, and Father Joel Garner. “For this child we prayed.” French Mortuary 1111 University Blvd. NE (505) 843-6333


“We ran it two days. The day before and day of the memorial service.”
David Henry Banke
David Henry Banke Funeral services for David Henry Banke, infant son, will be held at 12 noon today, at Willow Creek Community Church, South Barrington. Visitation will be from 11 a.m. until the time of services. He passed away Oct. 30, 2008. David was the son of David and Natasha Banke of (city); brother of (sister); and grandson of david’s parents (city) , Natasha’s parents (city). Omission of flowers and gifts are requested. Memorials may be made to the family for a future bereavement fund.
Laird Funeral Home, Elgin, phone number, is in charge of arrangements.


Owen Thomas Berlant died Oct. 13, 2008, the day he was born, in Vancouver.

His family lives in Lake Oswego.

Survivors include his parents, Shannon and David; brother, Andrew; grandparents, Cathy and Mel Berlant and Leslie and Dave Walls; and great-grandmother, Roberta Sabin.

Remembrances to A Butterfly’s Touch in Milwaukie. Arrangements by River View Cemetery.



Born in Laredo, Texas
Departed on Dec. 17, 2008 and resided in Laredo, TX.

Our little angel was called to the Lord on December 17, 2008. He is preceded in death by great-grandparents: (maternal) Maria Alicia Ramirez, Ruth Lara, Ruben Lara, Sr. and Laura Lara; (paternal) Santiago Cavazos, Rosa Cavazos, Fortunata Perez and Cirilo Perez.

He is survived by his parents: Santiago Miguel Cavazos, Jr. and Gina Renee Lara, his brothers Jimmy and Jordan Cavazos. Great Grand-father, Homero (Juanita †) Ramirez Sr. (Houston, TX) Maternal Grandparents Ruben “Cat” (Grace Ramirez) Lara Jr., Paternal Grandparents, Santiago Miguel (Maria Soccoro) Cavazos, Sr. Along with aunts and uncles: Rusty E. (Brisa) Lara, R. Eric Lara and (Luisa Bruni), Gracie R. (Ezequiel) Elizalde, Jamie J. (Cindi) Perez, Jorge A. (Leticia) Perez, Rosaura Perez, Hector M. Cavazos, David Cavazos, and many great aunts, uncles and cousins.

Visitation will be held on Monday, December 22, 2008 from 8 a.m. to 11 a.m. at Joe Jackson North Funeral Chapels, 1410 Jacaman Rd. A chapel service will commence at 11a.m.

Funeral services will follow Monday morning, December 22, 2008 at 11:30a.m. from Joe Jackson North Funeral Chapels to Calvary Catholic Cemetery.

The family encourages you to sign the guest book online at

Arrangements are under the direction of Joe Jackson North Funeral Chapels, 1410 Jacaman Rd.

DECEMBER 17, 2008-JANUARY 9, 2009

Born in Laredo on Dec. 17, 2008
Departed on Jan. 9, 2009 and resided in Laredo, TX.

“Dearest baby, please know that our greatest blessing was having you.”

Heaven’s gain was our loss when our angel was called by our Lord. Jordan came into this world too soon and was taken too soon.

He is being greeted in Heaven by his twin brother Matthew Ryan Cavazos, Maternal Great-grandparents; Maria Alicia Ramirez, Ruth Lara, Ruben Lara, Sr., Laura Lara, Paternal Great-grandparents; Santiago Cavazos, Rosa Cavazos, Cirilo Perez and Fortunata Perez.

He is survived by his parents; Santiago Miguel Cavazos, Jr. and Gina Renee Lara, big brother, Jimmy Cavazos, Maternal Grandparents; Ruben Lara, Jr., Grace Ramirez Lara, Paternal Grandparents; Santiago Miguel Cavazos, Sr., Maria Socorro Cavazos, Aunts and Uncles; Rusty E. (Brisa) Lara, Eric (Lisa Bruni) Lara, Gracie (Ezequiel) Elizalde, Jaime (Cindy) Perez, Jorge A. (Leticia) Perez, Rosaura Perez, Hector M. Cavazos, Olga (Hector) Zuniga, David Cavazos. He is also survived by numerous great aunts, uncles and cousins.

Visitation will be on Tuesday, January 13, 2009 from 9 am to 10 am. A Chapel Service will be held at 10:00 am. Cortege will depart @ 10:30 am from Joe Jackson North Funeral Chapels.

Interment will follow at Calvary Catholic Cemetery.

The family encourages you to sign the guest book online at

Arrangements are under the direction of Joe Jackson North Funeral Chapels, 1410 Jacaman Rd.


DARCY ANNE RAMOS of Magnolia, was born on September 27, 2008 and was reunited with her Lord on October 11, 2008. She impacted thousands. Darcy was survived by her parents, Jason and Tracy Ramos, and siblings, Brittany, Isabella, Alexys, Mallorie, Roman, and Bryson. Memorial services will be held at Klein Funeral Home in Magnolia at 10:00 a.m. on Thursday, October 16, 2008. Her story and memorial fund information
can be found at


In Memory of Delilah Audrey Marie Morris Delilah was born in Dawson Creek, BC on February 17, 2009 at 3:29 pm weighing 1 lb. 6 oz.. She passed away in her Mommy & Daddy’s arms on March 6, 2009 at 7:05 pm in the Neonatal Unit at Victoria General Hospital. Our precious little angel will always be remembered by Mommy and Daddy, Charlene (Steinbach) and Bryan Morris, and everyone her story touched. Donations in Delilah’s memory can be made to Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep Remembrance Photography at


“My daughter Emma was stillborn at 21 weeks on July 16. I couldn’t find a good obituary to use as a guide when I wrote hers, so I hope hers helps other people. We all have enough to worry about when we lose our baby. We shouldn’t have to stress over coming up with an obituary for them as well.

Thank you for your website. It helped me a lot.

Our local newspaper publishes infant obits for free (one day).

Here is Emma’s:”

OBENAUF-ENGLAND INFANT EMMA ANGEL (Daughter of Stephani and David) Emma Angel Obenauf-England, infant daughter of Stephani Obenauf and David England, was stillborn on Thursday, July 16, 2009, at the Special Delivery Birthing Center in Muskegon, Michigan. Though she never spent any time with us, she touched many of our lives. SURVIVORS include her parents, Stephani and David (Muskegon); her sister, Adrianna England (Plainwell); aunt, Mearrha Pardo (Fruitport); uncles, Brent England (Muskegon) and Bryce England (Muskegon); grandma, Kathleen (Obenauf) Rice (Wyoming, MI); grandparents, Fred and Brenda England (Muskegon); great-grandpa, Richard Sanborn (Muskegon); great-grandma, Arlene Gruette (N. Muskegon); and the many aunts, uncles and cousins of Stephani and David. A graveside service will be officiated by Pastor Joe Galy at St. Mary’s Cemetery on Wednesday, July 22, 2009 at 11 AM. In lieu of flowers, the family is requesting stuffed animals. The animals will be donated to a
charitable organization in Emma’s memory. Donations in Emma’s memory can also be made to the Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep Foundation at:  You may sign Emma’s on-line guest book at Arrangements by: The Sytsema Chapel Sytsema Funeral Homes, Inc. 737 Apple Ave. (231) 726-5210


“Hello,  Your website was very valuable to me as I was preparing my son’s obituary. You’re right – there still aren’t many templates out there for this difficult announcement. So here is what we used. Hopefully, someone else will find it valuable when they need it to be.  Thank you,
Roy Penney”

Duncan Oliver Penney was born without heartbeat on July 16, 2010 at St. Joseph’s Hospital, London.  Duncan is the cherished son of Roy and Liane Penney (Amyote) and beloved brother of Samuel, of London.

He is greeted in Heaven by his grandfather, Lloyd Penney and mourned on Earth by his grandmother Gladys Penney of Cambridge, grandparents Pamela and Clare Holt of Cottam, grandparents Chris and Deb Amyote of Leamington, great-grandmother, many aunts, uncles, cousins and so many dear friends.

Visitation will be held on Wednesday, July 21, 2010 at Westview Funeral Home on Wonderland Rd from 7-9 pm.  A private funeral service will be held at a later date. Contributions in Duncan’s memory can be made to the Kidney Foundation of Canada or St. Joseph’s Hospital Baby Unit.

Liane and Roy would like to thank Drs. Schmidt and McKee as well as nurses Sarah & Anna at St. Joseph’s for their compassion and support .

Sometimes, it’s the smallest things that take up the most room in our hearts






Jayce Thomas Sterling, precious baby boy of James and Brandy (Gerschutz) Sterling was born into the arms of angels June 29, 2015 at Blanchard Valley Hospital. Born at 35 weeks he weighed 4 lbs 14 oz and was 18 inches long. Although Jayce never spent any time with us on earth he was very loved and touched many lives. His big sister Cora made sure every day up until his passing that he knew how much we all loved him. Our little angel will never be forgotten.

He was preceded in death by his maternal great grandmother Roiene Mathers and Paternal Great Grandfathers Bill Sterling, and Bill Griffith.

In a addition to his parents and big sister he is survived by maternal grandparents- Michael and Mellissa Gerschutz of Findlay;  Paternal Grandparents- Jim and Michelle Sterling of Mccomb; Bobbi and Rick Carnahan of Continental.   Great grandparents ; David and Phyllis Gerschutz; William Mathers; Nancy Zupo; Joan Shamp; and Nina Sterling. Uncles Dustan Gerschutz (Raymond  Carter), Joe Sterling(Laura Wheeler), and Steve Sterling(Esmeralda Sierra). Aunts Kendra Wilson and Alyssa Wilson.  Cousins – Jasmine, Paris and Alayah. He has several great aunts, uncles and cousins.

James and Brandy would like to personally thank our nurses Amanda, both Stephanies, and Holly for all of their love, compassion and support during this very tough time.  We will be forever grateful.

There will be no Services held.