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For the last several months I have been wearing a very special necklace that I picked out from JewelryKeepsakes.com.
I am not much of a jewelry person, so when I do wear something it is usually pretty special to me.
This particular necklace can also hold a small amount of personal remains of a loved one.
I have seen these before and honestly wasn’t sure how I felt about it. But now that I have one I am very glad I own it. It is my preferred piece of jewelry–It is stylish, well made, and nobody can tell what it holds inside. Basically, it simply looks like a very pretty piece of jewelry. Nobody knows it holds a small part of my son’s remains unless I tell them…and I don’t offer that information.
The necklace came with a small funnel and toothpick to help the flow of ashes into the small opening. I had no real issue with the process of filling the necklace. If a larger piece of remain did not fit through the funnel I was able to push it out and try a different portion of ashes. The toothpick wasn’t extremely strong, though, and it did break. That was the only issue I had with filling the necklace with some of Dekar’s remains.
The opening on the top of the necklace is closed with a little screw. This shut tight since I was careful to not overfill. Originally I did not use the adhesive product that was sent with the necklace. It seemed to me the screw was secure so I did not think it needed the extra adhesive. However, after wearing the necklace almost daily for a few weeks I found myself checking the necklace regularly, making sure the pendant was still in place! I decided to buy some strong adhesive and securing the screw permanently. Once I secured the screw with some adhesive I feel more peaceful, knowing the pendant cannot accidentally come loose.
The chain itself is something I need to have fixed. The clasp is very difficult to attach to the other end as the opening is quite small. I have contacted the company and was assured this can be fixed/replaced. I just haven’t done it yet due to the craziness of life lately.
I really love this necklace and am so glad to own it. Even if I didn’t have some of Dekar’s remains in the necklace I believe it would be a favorite necklace because of the special picture of a mother cradling her child’s head.
As far as the service itself from JewelryKeepsakes.com, I couldn’t be more pleased. The shipping was prompt and the communication was excellent.
(ETA after posting: I just want to say that when I worked on this post it looked perfect as far as spacing, formatting, etc. But once I published it the “perfect” look disappeared! I don’t have the time or talent to figure out how to make my son’s memory blog look excellent all the time….but hopefully those who come here look beyond all of that stuff. I just wanted to vent a bit because I find this VERY frustrating!)
October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day.
Today we remember the babies who were born asleep,
the babies whom we carried but never met,
the babies we have held but could not take home,
and the babies who made it home, but didn’t stay.
I will have a whole new family to join up in heaven!–Dekar and six (known) miscarried babies.
A candle will be lit at 7 pm in honor of them and all babies gone too soon.
After getting Dekar’s diagnosis my husband’s co-worker/friend gave a pot of beautiful roses to us. I started calling them Dekar’s Roses.
At one time last summer there were nine beautiful blooms on one of the plants–one for each of my children!
Since I do not have a green thumb I transplanted the roses in three different areas, hoping at least one plant would survive. This year only one plant is doing well. (I really do not have a green thumb!)
These pictures were taken last year.
- Dekar’s Roses
The month of Dekar’s birthday has been funky for me the last two years. If you have lost somebody special in your life you may understand. For me this means I may be more somber and melancholy. Other times I’ll want to keep busy and do something productive to pass the time. Some days I’ll notice I’m simply out of sorts–in a funk!
As time has gone on I’ve recognized this as my way of working through the grief and acceptance of losing Dekar. These things don’t catch me off guard or make me question myself as they used to. I just take them as they come. Grief is a weird thing and definitely different for everybody.
Since this is Dekar’s birthday month I am going to post a new picture or memory of Dekar when I feel the need to help me work through the “funk”.
A beautiful and unique Valentine created by “Landon’s Gift” on Facebook.
It took almost two years, but I finally found the perfect urn for Dekar. This was purchased through Perfect Memorials
Front with engraved writing.
Top, where a large candle can be placed
Inside where the cremains (or other momentos) can go. Top can be sealed permanently, if desired.
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Congratulations to Sharon and family on the birth of Charlize Rose!
Sharon gave birth to a beautiful little baby girl with Trisomy 18 and hypoplastic left heart on July 29th. Today she is enjoying her 27th day with her!!! It simply makes me smile. I am so happy that Charlize is being surrounded by the love of her family and giving love in return–I pray she has 27 more, and 27 more, and 27 more, and ……………….
Sharon shared some of the most wonderful, touching pictures with me–I posted just a few. Isn’t Charlize gorgeous?
From an earlier email Sharon said, “She is in the most wonderful wrapping Marge, just like your Dekar.” I love that. What a perfect way to describe our babies–in a “wonderful wrapping.”
Enjoy your time together, Sharon, and thank you for sharing your message of hope.
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